Thursday, October 2, 2014

Review: The Secret Thoughts of Successful Women

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The Secret Thoughts of Successful Women: Why Capable People Suffer from the Impostor Syndrome and How to Thrive in Spite of ItThe Secret Thoughts of Successful Women: Why Capable People Suffer from the Impostor Syndrome and How to Thrive in Spite of It by Valerie Young
My rating: 5 of 5 stars

I first heard about the Impostor Syndrome through some random article or post. Sadly, I don't remember if it was NPR or something more obscure. Anyway, as soon as I saw the "symptoms," I instantly recognized it. In a way, it was liberating to put a name to what has been dogging me for as long as I can remember. Also, since I'm naturally a little grouchy and bitter about these things, I got kind of annoyed that none of the mental health professionals I've seen over the past decade caught onto this. Granted, the Impostor Syndrome is not a clinical psychiatric problem in the DSM. It's more of a social phenomenon, but it was such a relief to know that I'm not the only one out there who feels like I need to prove something, and if I make a tiny mistake on a project, it means I'm completely incompetent and can never get it right. The worst part of being plagued by this problem is most of us know it's irrational and it's not a helpful way to go around living your life and running your career. It does light a fire under your butt to succeed though, and that can be very motivating. The cost is nothing ever seems like an accomplishment. Everything that goes well is just a "lucky break."

Valerie Young started her work on the Impostor Syndrome as a doctoral student, and began running workshops for women to help them recognize this problem and develop strategies for overcoming it. The workshops became a big hit with men and women. So, even though gender norms and sexism in the workplace exacerbate the Impostor Syndrome, apparently women are not the only ones affected.

Young balances the book between snippets from studies, sociological and psychological underpinnings, and personal experience as a woman with Impostor Syndrome and a trainer. This was a great read and I definitely plan to refer back to it for myself and my clients.

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Sunday, September 21, 2014

Review: It's Kind of a Funny Story

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It's Kind of a Funny StoryIt's Kind of a Funny Story by Ned Vizzini
My rating: 5 of 5 stars

Ned Vizzini's fictional YA account of a week in the local psych ward is one of those books that is aimed at the pleasure centers of my brain. 1. The main character, Craig Gilner, suffers from a mental illness (depression--especially the strong sense of inadequacy regardless of how much he achieves.) 2. Vizzini's style is brilliant and unique. He breaks certain "rules" that I normally can't stand, but dammit, when it comes to this book, I don't care. 3. Strong voice. 4. It ends when it's time to end. No prolonged emotional sappy stuff just to make it seem like you're reading something "really substantial." 5. Vizzini has a great sense of humor.

Also, the characters have staying power. For the first time in years, I have moments when I want to channel Jimmy and say "It'll come to ya!" instead of something more appropriate like, "How are you doing?" Oh, and another frequent flyer in the psych ward, Armelio, always answers the phone "Joe's Pub." I've been tempted to do that, but it's a fantasy best left to characters in a book.

Before any die-hard fans of Vizzini's book jump on me about this, yes, I know. Ned Vizzini said in an interview that the story is "85%" true. Take this however you like, but it's not a good book because of how true it is. It's a good book because the feelings are real.

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Monday, June 23, 2014

Review: The Fault in Our Stars

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The Fault in Our StarsThe Fault in Our Stars by John Green
My rating: 5 of 5 stars

Tear-jerkers are books I tend to avoid. I hear about upsetting things all day, and since I'm in a profession that demands the ability to do that without breaking down, I'm okay with it. However, give me a sad movie, a sappy commercial or a sad book, and I totally lose it. So, I've resisted picking up The Fault in Our Stars for quite a while because I didn't want to deal with puffy eyes in my leisure time knowing that's exactly what I'd be in for. Sometimes, books like Sweethearts sneak up on me, so I allow for that, but with this one, really, you know things aren't going to end well for at least one person.

Monday, June 2, 2014

Shameful Self-Promotion: Celebrity Faux Pas on Grammar, Etc.

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I doubt that it comes as a surprise to anyone that writers are the best Tweeters. We are so good at everything, after all.
Grammarly Celebrity Twitter Mistakes

Thursday, April 17, 2014

A Survival Guide to Parenting Teens

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A Survival Guide to Parenting Teens: Talking to Your Kids about Sexting, Drinking, Drugs, and Other Things That Freak You OutA Survival Guide to Parenting Teens: Talking to Your Kids about Sexting, Drinking, Drugs, and Other Things That Freak You Out by Joani Geltman
My rating: 4 of 5 stars

It seems to be universally agreed that teenagers are not fun to parent. Joani Geltman doesn't exactly make it fun, but the way she has organized it should make parenting less stressful. She introduces each challenge in easy to recognize terms. She identifies the basic problem and she tells you how to solve it. How awesome is that? Before parents go out and start having parties in the streets, I have to warn you, that a lot of the advice contained in Geltman's book encourages you to step out of your level of awareness and consider the wild and crazy jungle of the teenage brain.

I commend Geltman for supporting parents in setting boundaries with teens when it comes to patience (or lack there of), entitlement, and consideration for others in general. For most people, these can be taught and when parents drop the ball, they leave the next generation of women with a bunch of failure to launch types. Everyone who has a teen needs one of these books for every room.

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Monday, April 7, 2014

Review of He Texted: The Ultimate Guide to Dating in the Digital Era

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Review: He Texted: The Ultimate Guide to Dating in the Digital Era by Lisa Winning and Carrie Henderson McDermott 
What amazed me about He Texted is the reactions that I got from friends when I shared tidbits from the ARC via my Kindle. Okay, I know all digital galleys have that warning in the front about it being an uncorrected proof and you should check the final edition and sacrifice a goat before quoting anything, but what’s a few snippets between your 200 closest friends? I mean, it’s not as if everything is linked on the Internet or something. . . . Hmm, someone just told me that’s wrong. Oh well. No crying over spilled quotes. Moving along. So as I mentioned before, the reactions were surprising.

Wednesday, March 12, 2014

Review: Beyond the Blues

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Beyond the Blues: A Workbook to Help Teens Overcome DepressionBeyond the Blues: A Workbook to Help Teens Overcome Depression by Lisa M. Schab
My rating: 4 of 5 stars

Lisa M. Schab LCSW does an excellent job explaining the facts about depression and clearly outlining strategies that teens (or anybody) can use to process their feelings and disrupt the cycles that tend to perpetuate depression. She provides plenty of simple activities that most teens can incorporate into daily life as they go through treatment. These activities involve engaging creativity, emotion, and reaching out to others as well as modifying personal thought patterns. My only concern, hence withholding one star, is that I believe this book really should be viewed as a supplement to professional help rather than, "If it gets really bad, see a professional." For example, suicide risk is not even seriously discussed until well into the book. While I don't think it helps teens or parents to freak out every time someone shows signs of depression, suicide is always a risk. In fact, with any mental illness, it's a risk, and depression is one of the most common mental illnesses.

This book is a terrific resource and I will definitely recommend it to clients. I think it's a wonderful adjunct to in-person therapy, and includes plenty of terrific suggestions in a user-friendly format. I'm just not sure I would want a teen turned-loose relying only on this. All that said, if a teen suffering from depression gets a hold of this book, maybe it will be enough to push them to get help and make the best of it when they do.

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Tuesday, February 18, 2014

Cover Reveal & Giveaway for EXODUS 2022

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1600 Words a Day is participating in a blog tour for Kenneth G. Bennett's sci-fi/paranormal New Adult thriller. This means all kinds of fun stuff. Today: cover reveal. Soon: up to 25 lucky readers could win a free e-book version of EXODUS 2022.